Hey there, Jake here! One thing that I have learned about love in the past two years of being married to Becca is that sometimes love isn't what you expect. DON'T FREAK! I know that sounds weird, but give me a moment to explain myself:
When I met Becca a little over 4 years ago, I had no idea I was going to marry her. I hadn't ever been in a relationship for more than a year with anyone before so why would she be any different? I didn't see a halo on her and God didn't come down from the sky and say, "YOU WILL MARRY THIS WOMAN." We just started a relationship like most others. We saw each other every day for the first three months... and I mean EVERY DAY MONDAY-SUNDAY. The first day we couldn't see each other we just kind of sighed in calm acceptance.
Not one of these things were good evidence that we were "in love." Hanging out every day could have just been a sign of puppy love. A love that is there one minute and then gone the next. Why, then, did we decide that we should tie the knot and spend the rest of our lives together? How can you possibly know? We knew because we didn't just keep that puppy love. We took the path of most resistance...I'll explain in a second.
Two years of marriage later I can you we're still deeply in love. Now that we live together, we go months at a time seeing each other every single day. We live together, we eat together, we raise a child together. Unless work comes up where we travel apart, we don't have a choice to be away from each other. We have the RESPONSIBILITY together to always go to sleep happy with each other.
What happens when work+baby+stress=crazy lives??? Life hits! That's what happens. And I can tell you it's not easy and it's no one's fault. Well, if you let it get to you, it's no one's fault but your own. God will never put you through more than your are capable with. Notice, I'm not saying comfortable, I'm saying capable of dealing with.
These are hard times that anyone can go through, not just married couples. If you do find yourself at wits end with life, your job, whatever it may be, it's not time to quit.
To quote the all too overused quote, "Follow the path of least resistance." I say, NO TRUE! Get in there and find the path of most resistance, as long as you are working towards good together you WILL be pulled through it and once you make it you will be stronger and better than before. Don't take the easy road.
By the time you are through the storm you will be able to appreciate the beauty in life, at work, and at home even more. Just stay strong in prayer and seek out those that bring you up. Friends are the strongest force God ever gave! He obviously thinks it's important to be with friends.. in Matthew 18:20 Jesus says, "For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them."
He's there always, but when you have an amazing life partner, life is just ten million times sweeter. Especially if they are your spouse, they will always be there through the storms and in the end you will only get more beautifully in love together.
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